As a single women in ministry I am often asked the question, “Why aren’t you married?” Being asked so frequently I chose to ponder over this idea and consider REALLY, why am I not married? It’s not like I haven’t been. So I honestly asked myself the question “do I really want to be married?” I wondered was it me? Am I unconsciously giving off this vibe of resistance and didn’t know it? Are my expectations to high? After all the debating I came to terms with the fact that I would in fact like to marry however, I honestly haven’t met anyone to capture my interest to consider marriage and it was then that I realized, it’s because of what my “SAVIOR SHOWED ME.”
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man whose easy to love because he adores everything about me – even the things I think are issues.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who frustrates me because of his wisdom and not his ignorance.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who stretches me beyond my limits and tolerates me kicking and screaming only for me to discover he helps to make me become more than I could ever imagined I could be.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man I find great pleasure serving and find even greater joy when we partner in things together.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who REALLY believes I’m a gift to the world, even when others don’t see what he sees or choose to admit it.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man whose willing to join me in battle and eager to come to my defense – putting those who attempt to harm me firmly in their place.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man whose fun, makes me laugh and fills me with joy unspeakable – even in the quiet moments.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who inspires me to be creative just by the inspiration of loving him.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man whose presence is PEACE and when I’m with him I feel safe, sound and secure.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who defines me by my progress and not by my failures.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who heals and redeems me from the false realities of the world and in his presence is salvation and truth.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who enjoys my company and conversation and who simply delights in the mere sound of my voice.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man whose voice and touch I can’t resist – because there truly is nothing like it.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man who I admire for his wisdom and strength in his relationships with others like family, friends and associates – even when it’s not perfect.
He Showed Me:
I should marry a man I desire to live and die with because with him, life is rich and meaningful in any season we share together.
After all the prayerful evaluation it was then that I realized I am not married because my Savior showed me what inner joy and contentment really feels like with Him and that the man I marry should essentially be a “Living Expression of My Savior’s Love.”
So Ladies, if you find yourself feeling unloved, unsatisfied, alone and wanting then consider the love that is found in Jesus Christ… This Love is true and lacking nothing and quite possibly still awaiting your undivided attention.
Karen Gaithers-Life Discipleship 